It’s electric.
It is the high less the marijuana, the buzz without the beer and the orgasm minus the touch. It makes people feel at ease and creates this indescribable airy warmth that makes you say yes when you really mean no. It lightens the rude and inconsiderate. It is genuine and natural. It closes the business deals and manages to loosen panty seams effortlessly! It is colorblind and cannot spell the word discrimination! The world’s wealthiest and most successful people have it, yet it costs you nothing…JFK had it, MLK had it, Obama has it, Sean Carter got it, Oprah owns it….it’s Bereolaesque, it’s charisma-filled, it’s charming—it’s charm!
Charm can turn the unattractive adorable and make an orator of the verbose. It is a social, professional, conversational lubricant that holds the attention of an audience captive without bail and engages them to the point of a hazy trance. Charm is nothing more than easy manners—a natural gift that makes you relatable to everyone with a little added sugar and a cherry on top. It is special attention given to the unspoken needs of others, a compliment here or a laugh there; putting one at ease while making a crying baby smile. Never over the top nor ostentatious, charm is the universal language that everyone responds to.
“How can I get me some of this charm?” You ask. Well it’s not easy, my friend.
Last week a blogger asked:
“What makes you so qualified to address issues pertaining to gentlemen this and gentlemen that? I’m not saying you don’t know what you’re talking about but I’ve never heard of you…”
My response is simple: I have what they all want, cool sophisticated charm. It’s gotten me many corporate jobs I’ve been completely unqualified for, many women I didn’t deserve, many opportunities, many favors, many parties, many dollars, many scholarships, through many college courses, dean’s offices and advisors. Charm has allowed me to breeze my way through life’s disappointments and has afforded me the opportunity to tell you all what works and what doesn’t, how I did it, what I wore and how you, too, can do it—BEREOLAESQUE: The Gentleman & Etiquette Book for the Urban Sophisticate.
As J. Dakar says, “I’m sure you’ve heard about me; if you haven’t, you will.”
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Hitler had it. But he used his gift of charm to murder and kill innocent lives. Pimps have it. But they use it to exploit and empty women.
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What’s good Bereola? Where can I cop your book?
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I’ve always thought that charm isn’t something you can teach people…imo, you have it or you don’t.
I’m really not trying to come down on you, but I don’t think you answered the question about what makes you a qualified source regarding correct etiquette and “how to be a gentleman”. I think the answer you gave was a bit superficial, especially the part about getting things you didn’t deserve.
Around these parts I live in, a man who uses his ‘charm’ to get things/women/whatever that he doesn’t deserve is said to be “running game”. On the flip side, a man who uses his own merit and integrity to obtain higher goals in life has the makings of a true gentlemen, but again this is my opinion.
Someone please let me know if I’m taking this the wrong way and I will gladly re-evaluate my opinion. It seems like your posts are vague and generalized, and your choice of words and your writing technique makes me feel uneasy. I feel like I’m reading a salesman’s pitch. Maybe a post with some substance will help me understand who you are.
Well, that’s my two cents. Everyone has a critic, eh?
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I def. agree with you Cortney..you cannot teach one to possess it; they’re just born with it.
p.s
is that you in the picture J. Dakar?
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Nah, that’s the author of the post, Bereola.
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” Charm is nothing more than easy manners, a natural gift that makes you relatable to everyone…” Its seems the author has given us an easy going take on the uneasy topic of manners. He put a positive twist on using charm to bring out the best in ourselves and others. Bereola’s examples of historic charmers give us a refreshing look at what charm in action looks like…Yeah plenty of people use it for their own selfish reasons, but looks like Bereolaesque aims to make the world a much more enjoyable place, starting with the man in the mirror…I can’t knock his hustle!
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Interesting…I would agree that he (Bereola) may have a lil bit of “charm”. At least when he writes, because his opening had me wanting to see what he was talking about so I continued to read the post. Had it not been interesting to me I would wouldn’t have read the whole thing. But I would have to agree with Cortney I don’t think it’s something you can teach. You may able to learn about being “charming” but to actually be “charming” that’s a different story.
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