Check out my interview with Rolonda in a new feature for Clutch.

It was actually my first celebrity interview, but Rolonda was such a sweetheart. It’s hard to believe she’ll be turning 50 in July!

Post Title Download: Tyrese – “Sweet Lady” (M4A) from Tyrese

It wasn’t until I looked at my desk calendar today that I realized I’ll be 25 in 25 days.

I’ve really learned a lot about myself these last few years.

I’m giving you the same opportunity with 25 random facts about me.

1. I have a younger brother who’s probably my best friend. People often think I’m an only child; for six years, though, I was.
2. I’m never not multitasking.
3. I’m not as well-read as I should be, or would like to be.
4. I’m never without my BlackBerry, but I do know how to disconnect from it.
5. I’d much rather text you than talk to you on the phone.

6. My closet is organized by function (jeans, khakis, shirts) and color (solids light to dark, then patterns). I have a separate closet for shorts, short-sleeved and t-shirts.
7. I don’t go a day without listening to music: I wake up listening to music; I go about my day listening to music; I fall asleep listening to music.
8. I have a hard time sleeping under anything more than sheets.
9. I hold the record at my high school of the most scholarship money ever awarded. Unfortunately, I don’t remember the total amount.
10. I keep my earrings in at all times and would not work for an organization that would disapprove.

11. I’ve studied four languages (Spanish, Latin, French and American Sign) but remember very little of any of them.
12. I love to cook, so I’m hoping to find a woman who won’t mind helping with the dishes.
13. I’m a virgin. I admit to lying about it when I was younger, but I no longer view it as something to be embarrassed by and now embrace it. The opportunity has presented itself a time or two, but I’ve waited this long, I think I’ll probably now wait until marriage.
14. I’m a HUGE procrastinator, but I always get the job done. In college, I began working six hours before a 20-something page senior business paper was due; I made a B.
15. My most prized possession is not my Lexus or my Rolex, it’s actually a tie between my diplomas and my music collection.

16. I’d love to one day act.
17. Nearly everything I do is an homage to my childhood friend Andrew who died a few weeks before our high school graduation.
18. I wear a ring daily that serves absolutely no purpose.
19. I shave every other day.
20. I’m 6′5″ but terrified of heights.

21. I’ve been told I snore, but I’ve never heard it. Until then I have to deny it.
22. My first concert was in 2007 — Norah Jones.
23. I have my memorial service already planned.
24. I want nothing more than to do good and do well & experience fatherhood.
25. I thought about committing suicide, but everyday I thank the Lord for letting me see another day.

Post Title Download: Christión – “Soon” from Ghetto Cyrano

A reader, Deva, commented last summer that while watching CNN’s Black in America, she wanted to hear my thoughts on finding a partner, adding, “You’re successful and black. Are you having trouble finding a mate?”

In a word, Deva, yes.

I’m a good guy, but I’m also a complicated man. That makes for an interesting combination when it comes to relationships. In fact, my longest one thus far (if you can even call it that) is just two weeks and three days.

I’ve always said that my professional goals and aspirations supersede my personal ones partly because of the intricacies that exist within my family: multiple divorces, extramarital affairs and children, etc. But also because I’m such an ambitious person, and I’m not willing to sacrifice my hopes and dreams for anyone.

Maybe I say that only because I’ve never been in love.

And I’m not about to settle for just anyone who comes along. I just wish I could find someone who could understand the type of person I am and appreciate that for what it is.

It would be so much easier if I were just looking for a good time, but that’s not who I am. I want to meet a girl, get to know her and one day start a family with her and live happily ever after. She needs to be strong, determined, driven and independent and have a caring and sincere nature about her. I’d be lying if I said looks didn’t matter, but I am well aware that beauty is vain and would greatly cherish a God-fearing woman.

I admit that I’m probably the reason my past “relationships” didn’t work. I’m picky, stubborn, and selfish at times, but I’d like to think I’m also a pretty decent guy. Apparently, Cat thinks so, too.

I always say everything happens for a reason, so maybe I’m not ready for love just yet. I have faith that when I am, it’ll find me.

Until then, though, what’s a man to do?

Post Title Download: Lyfe Jennings – “Will I Ever” from Lyfe Change