Words
Words can have an enormous impact.
I’ve just published a post for Concrete Loop regarding young, black males and suicide, including the recent deaths of two 11-year-olds who committed suicide because they were called gay and taunted at school daily.
Words can hurt or heal, encourage or discourage.
I’m all about positivity, so here are my words to live by. What are yours?
“One writes out of one thing only—one’s own experience. Everything depends on how relentlessly one forces from the experience the last drop, sweet or bitter, it can possibly give.”
- James Baldwin
I’ve mentioned it many times, but writing has always been a cathartic and expressive experience for me. I hate I haven’t written more lately.
“In the world and at home, you have the opportunity and the responsibility to help make the choices which will determine the greatness of this nation…You live in the most privileged nation on earth. You are the most privileged citizen of that privileged nation; for you have been given the opportunity to study and learn…You can use your enormous privilege and opportunity to seek purely private pleasure and gain. But history will judge you, and as the years pass, you will ultimately judge yourself, on the extent to which you have used your gifts to lighten and enrich the lives of your fellow man. In your hands, not with presidents or leaders, is the future of your world and the fulfillment of the best qualities of your own…”
- Speech to the University of California, Oct. 23, 1966, Robert F. Kennedy
I discovered this shortly before graduating last year. It immediately caught my attention, as I was still deciding what I wanted to do with my life, although I knew I wanted to do good and do well.
“The status of a person is not how much money they have or what they do for a living — the real importance of a person is how they treat everybody, particularly the people who are deemed lower than them in society.”
- J. Dakar
This is from a J. Dakar On commentary piece, which is actually comprised of something I wrote years ago titled “The Mandate”. The words are timeless, though, and state my thoughts on elitism and such.
“The measure of a man, sir, is not in money, position, station or possessions. These things mean nothing. The measure of a man is in his character, wisdom, ability, aliveness, intimacy, creativity, courage, fearlessness, perspective, independence and maturity…”
- Mark W. B. Brinton
Although I don’t remember how I came across this one, it describes who I aspire to be.
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
- Romans 12:2
No explanation really needed for that one, is there?
Post Title Download: Anthony David – “More Than Words” (ft. India.Arie) from Acey Deucy

Kelly said:
These were beautiful!! this is my favorite: “My hopes are not always realized, but I always hope.”- Ovid
Got that in high school and had some homework on it so I remembered it! it’s simple and to the point! So sad about those poor kids…
sade said:
that is a shock to me because where I am at right now being open about what you like is welcome and I seen alot of young people expressing themself and feeling good about who they like . I hope the kids who was doing the taunting learn from this situation that words can drive you to do anything if you are not sure what to do when dealing with school bullys.
Michael W. said:
Whoever said “sticks and stones might break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” They lied. Words can be very damaging.
RIP to the little boys
J. Dakar said:
That’s a great one, Kelly; I must remember it!
J. Dakar said:
From what I’ve read, neither of the little boys were actually gay. It amazes me how powerful words can be and how powerful we make them.
J. Dakar said:
Amen.